Tuesday, August 10, 2010

How do you lose the pain and move on with your life after the end of a serious relationship?

I dated this girl for about two and a half years. We were very close. I loved her to no end. In fact, we were waiting for college to be over with so that we could get married. Then something happened, and for reasons that i am still unsure of, she broke my heart and left me. It has been about six months since then and i still cant seem to get on with my life. I have tried to busy myself with things to keep my mind off of her, but i still end up thinking about her every day. I want to move on. I want to have a normal life and find someone who i can honestly love. But i cant seem to get over this hurdle. How do you un-love someone that you loved enough to give up your own heart so that they might live? I have tried doing what most people have suggested like busying myself, surrounding myself with friends, doing some hobbies, trying to get out, but it still feels as though i have this weight pressing on my mind and i cant shake it off.How do you lose the pain and move on with your life after the end of a serious relationship?
It's hard to get over someone that you have loved for so long, and you may never stop loving them. The good thing about life though, is that we don't know what is going to happen. You don't know when you will meet the next girl who is 1000x better for you. It's good that you are trying to keep yourself busy. This is the time for you to try new things that you have always wanted to do. This is the time for you to discover who you are and who you can be. Over time, things will get easier and you will think about her less and less. You just need to keep living.How do you lose the pain and move on with your life after the end of a serious relationship?
It's time to get PISSED OFF. This person who you loved looked at you decided that you were not good enough for her. Well, it's time you started valuing yourself and realizing that if she could throw away everything so easily she probably isn't the one for you. Start dating again, even it's just to date and not for a relationship. DO NOT talk to her for 60 days and really try NOT to talk about her at least 4 days a week.
time heals all, just hang in there.
Time
i talk 2 you from experience my friend, listen carefully. you feel pain and hurt because you have not forgiven your girl for walking away. the longer you hold on to the wrong she did to you, you will be impossible 2 love by another. you are right to hate, despise , or not forgive her for what she has done, but , at the same time you are also wrong not to forgive her. that is ofcourse if you have never told a lie, or done any wrong in this world. even jesus forgave, and he had every reason not to because he had no sin. how much more you.


admit your hurt, acknowlwdge the pain, affirm your justification not to forgive, then choose to, its the only way you are gonna get out of your rut. by the way, everyday you spend mopping, someone out there, (maybe your wife) is waiting for you to save her from being alone, go find her my friend, let the past remain in the past and out of your mind and LIFE.

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