How do you go on after you lost the love of your life?

I spent 13yrs with my husband. We have 3 children together and he recently abandoned me and the children. My mind is ready to move on but it is my heart that can't let go. Anyone have advice on the process of letting go or how you went on?How do you go on after you lost the love of your life?
13 years is an awfully long time. healing process will also take time. Do not force yourself to move on when your not ready. Sleepless nites, crying yourself to sleep and expressing anger are outlet and means for you to cope with whatever you are going through now. Take things one step at a time. .. it would help if you can focus some of your energy in achieving things you havent been able to do when you were with him. trying jutting them down and make a plan how to achieve them... Given the 3 children i would like to suggest if you may please.. to focus on working hard to provide for them there's no better way to deal with a loss than being independent fianancially and working hard and being successful in your career. This will help boost your morale and slef esteem.





Try not to hurry in falling in love again. make sure you get the right decisions since there are 3 kids you need to look after to... Lastly pray it helped mego through my trying times, I hope it helps you too. Good luck!How do you go on after you lost the love of your life?
That is a hurtful situation. You have invested alot in that


relationship. And it will take alot of time to get him out


of your system. Lots of memories.....so just make some


new ones. Yes, your head says, forget about him. But


your heart won't let go. It's all time.......darlin. If you had


ice in your veins, you wouldn't be capable of giving love.


But, you know you can love,...and you can love again, when


your ready. It's so hard....I feel for you, I am going thru it now.


Be strong....hold your head up. And it's ok to keep crying


till you don't cry anymore. That day will come, when you


won't have those strong feelings for him anymore, you will


be angry or indifferent. Date often....it takes your mind off


of him...temp...but you'll feel better . One day at a time......
at least now you should take some advice even from your ex husband , he must be enjoying his life so what you are waiting for go ahead and try some one who will take care of you or you said that you have three kids the enjoy yoour time with them
i dont know if it will help but once i neede to get something off of my mind i got a job that kept me really busy to where i dident think about my problems so much on top of that find a new hang out spot somewhere you 2 never went like a pub, a coffee spot make it somewhere other people hang out like the local cafe where you can talk to other people date someone new remember the old saying time is a healer and what dont kill you makes you stronger
Your heart will probably never totally let go, nor should it have to. You gave this man 13 years of your life and a large part of your heart. You need to take time out to heal and grieve. Take time to focus on your kids. Take time out for yourself... go out with friends, take an exercise or yoga class, find things you enjoy. Most importantly you need to get to know yourself again. You were a part of a couple for 13 years, and now you need to get to know who you are without him.... Join a support group (you can call a church or clinic in your area to try to find one)... You do not need to jump into another relationship right away. Once you have taken time to get to know and like yourself again, then you can start dating again.... look forward to a new chapter in your life's book!
You have to forget about the past and think about the future. The last thing your kids need is a mother who is an emotional basket case.Times does indeed heal all wounds, so give it time.
a lot of us have been in ur shoes.. and u have to learn to survive..


u have to push forward for ur children..


it is hard...


stay busy.. and don't think about him..


ur heart may always stay with him.. mine still stays with my love after 27 yrs..


but it was very toxic.. as much as i loved him.. i was not Happy..
Get a piece of paper. Pick one day when you are alone and undistrubed. Think back on your marriage, write down on one side of paper all the good things, on the other side write down all the bad things. See which is most. Then it should be easy to let go.
there is a movie with that lady Roseanne in it where she totally destroys her husband who left her with the kids, girl, go rent that movie =D





getting even will cure your heart
let it go there is a way : imagine him taking shut in middle of the house
Think: you have to be strong for your children's sake, what your husband did to u is not the end of the world, as long as you go on, you still hold the hope to live better, even without him.
I am sorry to hear that, But life goes on You have 3 children who love you, your heart will go on, and your mind will show you who the good one was, I for one say your the good one, just take care of the children because they will be asking alot of question why did daddy leave us. May god bless you and your children.