Y is LOVE the only feeling that can drive a sane man crazy and push the love of your life away!?

My ex and myself are goin through some things. I talked to her for the first time in about 4 months. When i talked to her she told me she is pregannt and doesnt know the father. The N!GG@ in me said F*** her and move on, but the man in me told me to love her no matter what. How can I still be in love with this girl?Y is LOVE the only feeling that can drive a sane man crazy and push the love of your life away!?
You built up an image of her that is more fantasy than reality. It sounds as if in the past four months, she has moved forward, seeking other relationships. You have remained in the past--have been obsessed with your strong desire for her, letting all your anger, resentment, and fear culminate into one unhealthy version of what you call ';love.'; If she is coming back to you with another man's child, then it is only because she needs you to help her, when no one else will--not because she loves or respects you. If you are willing to put her above your own feelings--your own logical train of thought, then what you are experiencing is not love, but a need. The only way that you and she will ever part is when you finally decide to hate her. I know. Hate is a strong word, but it is accurate. Your interpretation of LOVE is one that is very self-sacrificing, needing, wanting, fearful of losing, and adoringto the point of believing her good (hidden) qualities are pure and almost saintly) . You will have to HATE (and, unfortunately, one day , you will) in order to get on with your life and experience a healthy relationship--one of trust, mutual caring, friendship, and complete devotion ON BOTH SIDES. I hope that everything works out for you--I mean, there is really a small, one-in-a-million chance for this realationship. (nothing is impossible). However, I think that you will see (maybe not now or a year from now, but someday) that this is an unhealthy period in this stage of your life that will end in regret and sadness over wasted years and improperly placed emotions. I imagine you will discover this when you do discover the woman you should have been with from the beginning, but were too blind to notice from the start. (A man that loves like you love will always have an object of love in his life). She will be very different, and that will be good.Y is LOVE the only feeling that can drive a sane man crazy and push the love of your life away!?
obviously u still love her no matter what. the fact that she's pregnant by someone threw you off. there is nothing you can do. if you stick with her then it will get more complicated than you will think. specially when the baby's born, you will not know what to do. you will not think for your self anymore, eventually you will loose your self. trust me Ive experience it before, and iv ed stick-ed with it, and sure wasn't a pretty ending either
maybe, it's what you call.....true love. good luck !
I agree with Mad_ Madison_. Listen to her, man. She's got the clarity you lack right now.





The only thing I would disagree with is that you have to hate your ex to move on. Hating her will eventually happen if you don't stop


going around in circles, but you can just break the circle.





Seems to me that Madison has given you all that you need.
love, hate, and many other feeling make you crazy!