How do you get over your most painful relationship?

assuming you really loved the person you were with. and the relationship ends in disaster.


Now, you are tired and sick of waiting for a better tomorrow because you are afraid nobody can love him just as much as he did.


Your life is a wreck and you have nothing you are thankful. You just want love, but you cannot have it. You feel suicidal and hopeless.


But in your heart, you know you need to move on, otherwise, there will be death waiting for you.


HOW do you get over your most painful relationship? what to do?How do you get over your most painful relationship?
-Cut off all contact if possible. It is hard but it truly makes it faster.


-If you can't stop obsessing in your head read ';The power of now'; by Eckhart Tolle. It helped me.


-Stay busy, surround yourself with friends


-Don't drop your interests. I exercised a lot. It kept me healthy and busy.


-Get counseling. It sounds like you've been through something really painful.


-Get sleep and don't forget to eat. Keep your body and mind as healthy as you can and the rest will heal faster.


-Accept that it is going to be hard for a long time. It's been 15 months for me and I'm still a disaster


-Write write write. Journal, blog...whatever works to get your thoughts and feelings down on paper. It is so healing and it forces you to confront your pain and process it. Even if you write on a napkin and throw it away.How do you get over your most painful relationship?
One thing to do is to try to fill that void. Get busy. This won't necessarily solve the problem but it takes up your time so you don't spend all day upsetting yourself thinking about it.





Get rid of everything that you can that is related to that person or reminds you of them.





Also, you have to continue to tell yourself that you are important and your life is important and that you have to live your own life. Tell yourself this every morning and any time that your mind begins to think of the relationship. Try your best to keep your mind on yourself and whatever it is that you have in your life.





Its really hard after a relationship like that ends because you have become so close that they are apart of you. This thing you have to do it to lift yourself up so that you can become and individual again.





Remember that you CAN heal but you just have to let your self.
You take it a day at a time...Just like an alcoholic who has stopped drinking.





You may also want to consider getting help. Therapy or counseling is a good idea; so is joining a support group, where you can vent. See if your church offers this service.





We have all been there....Heartache is a terrible thing; but it is part of life and part of getting to know who we are and what we want and don't want out of life. We cannot make other people love or accept us...We cannot change them.





So try to focus on yourself, on your needs, and on healing yourself. Ask God to heal you and guide you. He will if you ask him with a broken heart. Good luck.
still working on this! If it was meant to be it could happen down the line - if not, or in the meantime - you just have to move on.. if it was the best relationship, it should have lasted,, whoever screwed up should have been big enough to make amends and make it work - if not, its done..
um, well, you could shake it off, go for a walk and buy a new pair of jeans.





you could realize you are in a black hole of drama that is unnecessary.





and, you could also realize that too much of this overwrought stuff does tend to push people away and is ultimately boring, leaving you with even more rejection.





at this point, its your call. you seem to enjoy the angst.
For me, I had to try suicide and fail. I gave up on dying since I couldn't even manage that. I decided that since I was going to live, I should at least make the best of it. So I turned my life around and got better.





I really hope there is a better/easier way. My way was the worst thing ever.
Get rid of everything that reminds you of him and just get him out of your head it will be hard but you got to do it to survive..
Time, sweet time.


It took a couple of years and finding someone new to get over him. I still think about him every day, but the pain is gone.
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It's extremely hard to give your heart to someone else only to have it broken when returned. Love is precious and shouldn't be handed out to whoever comes within range of you. You need to guard your heart so that whoever does come along you know you can trust the person with it. There is much in life to live for and no other person can make you feel complete. You need to know your value and the only person who can help you with that is God. He says that He has a hope and a future for you, that you are the apple of His eye, that He sent His Son to die for you because He loved you that much. The best relationship you could ever hope to be in is the one with God Almighty because He never lets you down and is always there for you.





I went through a painful relationship and breakup but it has been my faith in God that has been my light through everything. I put my trust in Him and I know I won't be disappointed. He wants to do the same for you.