How long did it take you to heal?

How long did it take you to heal over somone you loved so much but you had to leave because he/she was unfaithful, or for whatever reason you had that you had to stand by? Even though they did you wrong and you know you can't go back you can't just end the pain , the missing that person, or the just stop loving them! So if you been through it how long did it take you to get over the pain of having to move on with your life without that person?How long did it take you to heal?
I'm sorry to hear that your heart was broken. I can imagine how you feel, because I was once in your shoes. I was in a relationship with this guy who then was my world. I did all the things a woman should do for her man yet that wasn't enough for him to stop cheating. I think it was much harder for me to deal with it, because I wanted to kill myself. I felt rejected and unwanted by his actions. With everything else that was going on in my life, I felt no reasons to live. The pain was too unbearable. I blamed myself for not being a enough for him. And as a result, my self-esteem fell below.





Of course doing that time, I kept taking him back and he kept doing the same things. It went as far as me accepting he had an other woman (this was out of my character). I held on because I'd hoped and wished that he would change. But that didn't happen, so I knew that I needed to take action.





I broke free of him in the year of 2000. Let me tell you, it was hard. I couldn't take no more lies and cheating. I cried, cried and cried myself to healing. I had to accept that although his words said that he wanted me, his action said, NO! I began to tell myself that you deserve better and love doesn't treat anyone like this.





Sister trust me, you not missing nothing. For anything, he's the fool and don't even know it. It took me a year to get over it, but almost two year to get completely over it. And even this day, he's still trying to get back with me. It's been five years and I still tell him ';NO';. I realized that I loved him more than I loved myself. Throughout this ordeal, I found me for the first time. I suggest that you take this time to find you.





You are valuable, precious, and worth more than gold. So lift your head up high, shake off the dust, and start building toward your future. This is a set back for a come back. You'll make it, because I did.





I'm not promising it'll be easy, I'm saying you can overcome it.





Pain don't last long. The healing process is up to you!How long did it take you to heal?
I hope my experience will help you during this difficult time. Remember, he's going to beg for you to come back; set a standard for yourself by not allowing youself to be hurt all over again. You're find Mr. Right. In fact, he'll notice you before you notice him. Please just focus on you right now.

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its going on the fifth year now, and i am just really beginning to feel okay and accepting things as they are, before that i was full of hatred and bitterness, but i prayed, talked about it to a supportive understanding person and now i can finally see that there is an end to the pain and heartache.i miss what i thought he was, but i now know he was never that man i thought he was.its more painful to move on and have to give up life as u knew it than loosing a cheater.
Listen to that song by leona lewis. that line that says ';its gonna hurt when it heals to.'; It is a beautiful break up but moving on song. I left this guy because he was such a jerk. Luckily we lived in different states. I moved back to las vegas after up and leaving him one day from sandiego. We lived together. Anyway I didnt think it would hurt so bad but it did. He didnt love me. I loved me. Thats all you have to remember is to love yourself. Its different for everyone. That was two years ago. I still think about him. Thankful Im not with him, but still imagine him. You have to find a way to deal. You will though and you will be with someone just as wonderful as your prior once was.
It took me 6 years before I felt 100% o.k.,but after the very first year I started to feel a bit better %26amp; it increased gradually,until year 6.But,we all process differently,so it can take you a shorter period of time,I imagine.Bol to you
when they cheat... %26amp; u stay...im telling u from experience.. u NEVER get over it, u NEVER forget..%26amp; u frequently bring it up in every moment u get. its always in the back of ur head even a year later. so keep that in mind.





oh by the way my relationship is over already... for other reasons, but i shoulda left when i was in ur position.
My wife and I both cheated. I done it first then she done it.





We love each other very much and there's no looking back..we just move forward, but I will say this. In some way it actually helped my marriage believe that or not.
Your first true love it take a short while , second true love close to a six month , and third true love a lot longer like a year.