Tuesday, August 10, 2010

How to move on with your life after being in a relationship for 6 years and have a 3yr old and 1 on the way?

me and my know ex boyfriend of 6 yrs have broken up. well he doesn't really know yet he's at work and i took his clothes and thing to his sister house and left a letter explaining why i not going to be in this ralationship anymore. I just found out that he has a 9 mo. babie with a girl who know of our realtionship and neither her or him would tell me so they was doing all this behind my back.He lie to me all the time about everything. for someone to say that they love you why would they want to hurt you and lie to you? I really want to move on with my life and not deal with him anymore. Would I be wrong if i was to not let him see his kids.He doesn't spend anytime with my son or by him anyhting only on holidays (birthdays, christmas). please help i'm tired of not feeling like myself being depressed and stressed all the time. I just want to be happy and live a normal life.How to move on with your life after being in a relationship for 6 years and have a 3yr old and 1 on the way?
Remember who is first. Your son, your child on the way, and of course yourself. It is going to be hard, but you can do it. You deserve to be treated with respect and he does not respect you. You should make clear to him that you do have children together, and he needs to be a man and take responsibility for those children. You also have to remember to let him be a father to those children, even though your relationship with him is over. I know its a long time, but you can do it. Remember why you left him, what he did, and believe me, he will do it again to that other women. You are doing the right thing, and never settle, you only live once. Good luck to you.How to move on with your life after being in a relationship for 6 years and have a 3yr old and 1 on the way?
He can love you and be an idiot at the same time....sounds like he's been properly bad to you but you can't take away his kids from him because of that. Split with him,let the kids see him (their dad )and take the moral highground.Think of what's best for all of you. Also let him know how much of a t##t he's been. BE STRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
oh girl u s hould tell that jerk to get alive, and u s houldn't make him see the child anymore cause a jerk like him dont deserve u lol . u should tell him that if u cannot take care of ur child u souldn't see them at all , cause its our both kids
Those kids are his kids too. You need to go to court and establish visitation as well as child support. He has every right to see his kids if he wants to. I'm very sorry for what he did to you, but don't make your kids suffer because you have. Good luck hun.
Prob should have waited to be married before having kids...
HMMMM. So that's what becomes of the broken hearted...If you had somehow married him...at least child support or get a DNA from state and get it anyway. You know he's the father. Then he can pay TWO child supports!


You can't hold him back but he is responsible as a parent not wrapping his ';waskal';.
move away and take your kids with you


dont tell anyone where youre going
Go Girl and dont look back.





yes sure it takes up your thoughts for a while but keep busy planning, thats what we do best.


women are not the weaker sex.
when you contact welfare they will handle it.
hey girl. don't even worry about it. a guy thats going to do that to you isn't even worth your time. look at what you got out of it. you got a 1 beautiful child, and one on the way. i say that you take the kids %26amp; just live yourself a happy life without any heartaches. you need to think about the kids as well, because if you stay with this guy, you have to think about if he's going to be sneaking around on you.. and what his children are going to think of it. he's giving his kids a bad example and wrong way of living. if he has to lie to you about something to major, about getting a girl pregnant, then he can lie to you about many things. be true to yourself %26amp; your children. do what's best girl
Leave the kids out of this- keep it between you and him and move on- NOT fair to the KIDS to do that no matter how bad of a father he is.
first you should have hired a lawyer to take him to court


for child support because most likely you will now have


a hard time finding him because he'll be hiding behind


the other babies momma and seek support thru friends


and family thru this trying time.
You did the right thing. Move on with your life and you'll learn to do stuff on your own.
Well I think its wonderful you have decided for you sake as well as the childrens that you wanted a better life. You are a strong woman and you will be happy and get out of the stressful life you are leading. To refuse to have your bf see the children is another issue. I dont think you have enough grounds for him to be refused that privelege. You do not need to stay with a compulsive liar. Good luck to you.
look he ***** see u %26amp; ur son cuz he must be really busy to earn money for u %26amp; the boy


it can also be that he doesnt like u %26amp; ignorin u


but u can directly ask him wats the problem or ignorant abt


if u wanna be happy


do wat ur brain tells u too


cuz ur heart will always say stay with him


best of luck
You did the right thing. I really don't see how you took it for this long. But, it is going to take some time for ';the dust to settle';. I promise you it will. You need to stick to what you need and that is to get away from such a jerk!





However, he is the kids father and will always be. If he wants to see them, he should.





You will be okay. I have been through it and had to be strong for a while. Then, everything settled down for me. God bless. I will pray for you.
Hello,


Look at it this way, at least you are not married right?


When my ex hubby got put in prison for things he did behind my back (long, long story) I moved back to my home state with three kids, no home, no car (he forged ownership papers on the car so the right thing to do was give it back to the car dealership. No this was not the only thing he did), no job.





Got my old job back , got a crappy apartment that I could get a ride to work, got a babysitter and the older kid in school and started filling for a divorce.





You have one child and another on the way, your life is no longer your own. Oh and life as you no of it will never be the same. Start filling for child support. Make arrangements for his times to see the children. No you can not keep him from his children.


Go find a job, if that is you do not have one already. Is his name on the lease/morgage on the house? If so you can either fight for the home or just walk away.


There are grown up things you have to deal with. Breaking up with children is never easy for you have those kids to think about as well.


Life of a mothers is not easy and it is sad the father has this other gal on the side...... keep your chin up. It does get better.


Wish you well
well i know right now your hurting but infact my ex husband left me with my two sons to raise alone.keeping the kids from him seems like a good idea but the kids dont have anything to do with it dont let him off that easy by not taking care of his kids thats what he wants.i say make him take the child on weekends so he takes part in raising them too it only makes it harder on you by not getting a break and eventually your child will grow older and ask.....mommy why didnt you let me see my daddy? why is it because ur mad at him.....i know hes a dick head and a loser for doing that but.......its his responsibilitie too. and being newly single free weekend will come in handy
This is really hard to deal with, but do what is best for you and your kids. Agree for legal visitations for him, because he is the father of your kids and will always be part of their lifes. Now, if he doesn't come around thats his problem, but at least you can always tell your kids you were always the better person.
I have felt similar feeling. you can't get them from your mind and you think of the things that could've happened. I've tried to move on. It took me a while. but I found something else that I really enjoy. It takes my mind off of it. Not like just a little activity. It is something I really like to do.

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