I broke up with my ex 2 yrs ago. She moved on and has been in a relationship ever since. About a year ago, everytime she came through town, we would catch up and end up sleeping together. I have tried to keep my distance, told her i need to move on with my life, but i still cant stay away. I know its not the right thing to do, but i miss her and still love her, shes my first love. How do you move on with your life when its like this??How do you move on when you cant.........?
You need to find someone else that you can connect with.
You won't be able to move on if she is still so important to you.
And still sleeping with her will help nothing.
If you really want to move on,you have to completely let go.
It will be hard but time heals all wounds.How do you move on when you cant.........?
You are making it worse by continuing to sleep with her . Change your numbers. tell her to not come back. Move on to the next one, there are plenty of other adventures left in your life just get started with the next one. Find you a position somewhere as a volunteer in a gay or lesbian organization. I do this it is great for meeting people and screening potential dates.
It's only prolonging your hurt if you sleep with her. The best thing is to end it completely. Try to go further afield to seek out like-minded people.
the best thing might be to find someone else
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Friday, August 20, 2010
Do your friends just like to tell you not to think too much whenever you tell them your problems?
I am undergoing streams of mood swings recently because of some relationship problems with a boy. But whenever I want to share with my friends what's going on with my life and how bad I feel, they always seem to only resort to the standard response ';don't think too much. Move on with your life. Things will be fine. Don't be a child.';
Up till now, only 1 of the friends, who is a girl that I don't even know for so long, probably just couple months at school, showed tremendous support and patience to analyse my case. But others would only say that I am childish and whiny.
So why the others would they still claim they are good listeners and am willing to stand by me? I know everyone has issues, but all I am looking for is that they would be really engaging to my problem once they told me they are ready to share my sorrow, but not just telling me to forget about things and move on.
How am I supposed to learn and move on if I don't analyse my mistakes and problems??Do your friends just like to tell you not to think too much whenever you tell them your problems?
Good point on the whole ';analyse my mistakes and problems?'; thing.
You will often find that only a few (or 1!) friends will truly stick w/ you through thick and thin. When you find such friends: DON'T LET THEM GO!!! I mean it! Use these people (in a good way of course!) to learn how to improve yourself and become the person you wish to be. All of us must continue to change for the better, or we will simply become whatever becomes easiest for us to be. Which is usually undesirable. Because great people are made by passing through trials and succeeding to do the right things even when it gets hard. The End will be beautiful however if you make the right choices now. I wish you the best in life, and hope that you will hold on to Hope...and that 1 friend I mentioned earlier.
BTW, that 1 friend in your life will sometimes change.
Up till now, only 1 of the friends, who is a girl that I don't even know for so long, probably just couple months at school, showed tremendous support and patience to analyse my case. But others would only say that I am childish and whiny.
So why the others would they still claim they are good listeners and am willing to stand by me? I know everyone has issues, but all I am looking for is that they would be really engaging to my problem once they told me they are ready to share my sorrow, but not just telling me to forget about things and move on.
How am I supposed to learn and move on if I don't analyse my mistakes and problems??Do your friends just like to tell you not to think too much whenever you tell them your problems?
Good point on the whole ';analyse my mistakes and problems?'; thing.
You will often find that only a few (or 1!) friends will truly stick w/ you through thick and thin. When you find such friends: DON'T LET THEM GO!!! I mean it! Use these people (in a good way of course!) to learn how to improve yourself and become the person you wish to be. All of us must continue to change for the better, or we will simply become whatever becomes easiest for us to be. Which is usually undesirable. Because great people are made by passing through trials and succeeding to do the right things even when it gets hard. The End will be beautiful however if you make the right choices now. I wish you the best in life, and hope that you will hold on to Hope...and that 1 friend I mentioned earlier.
BTW, that 1 friend in your life will sometimes change.
How do you say good-bye to the love of your life and soul mate?
We were together for over 10 yrs. We told each other that we were meant to be, soul mates. Pieces of puzzle that fit. He gave to me his grandmothers wedding band, 5 yrs ago, with a promise for the wedding ring to match. He took me around the world to see %26amp; be in places that were only only in my dreams. He made my dreams come true. I Will be FOREVER GRATEFUL, and he knows. Buy there is something wrong. He's not calling anymore....tears keep rolling down my face all the time, when I think about him. I do tell him on the phone, e-mails and reg mail. Its like I don't exisist anymore in his life. I am running scared. He is the love of my life and he does know. Something tells me that I must move on. I think I need closure. What do you all think? I can't do this by disengaging my feelings, my heart won't let go. He has embedded his self, what am I going to do?How do you say good-bye to the love of your life and soul mate?
sometimes this type of situation arises, but what to do.
u know one thing that TIME HAS WINGS,SO everything will be alright.just give sometime more to both of u.if he is in ur fate,then besides so many odds, he will come again back to u. but don't get any wrong decision or finding someone else. if u really loved him, then trust and belive that one day everything will be alright.
i know it's hard, but what ever happens,happens just for good.How do you say good-bye to the love of your life and soul mate?
Why are you two apart? Is he on deployment? There is something important missing from your text. Did he break up w/u?
Obviously, there is love here. But I don't understand why it's over. Are you not accepting his breakup? What's the deal?
pawn the wedding band
If he has moved on already then maybe you should try and do the same.i kow that is it going to be hard,maybe even the hardest thing you have ever had to do.I am with my soulmate and i hope that i never have to face the day that he says that he doesnt want to be with me anymore.I know that you dont want to do this but if yall were meant to be then God will bring yall together in the end.
First of all, I am so sorry. I can't imagine the pain you are going through. I don't know what his deal is, but just be patient and pray. Sometimes, things are not always what they seem. If he truly is your soulmate, the one God has planned for you, then love will find a way. Just pray and have faith and I will keep you both in my prayers. God bless.
Honey, If he's not calling or responding, he's not what he claimed to be. Take the time you need to come to terms with that and move on. Whether he's leaving scared of commitment, wanting time to himself, or leaving for somebody else; if he loved you as much as has been claimed, he'd be answering you to let you know. Without any kind of response, he's not worth the tears you'll cry.
sometimes this type of situation arises, but what to do.
u know one thing that TIME HAS WINGS,SO everything will be alright.just give sometime more to both of u.if he is in ur fate,then besides so many odds, he will come again back to u. but don't get any wrong decision or finding someone else. if u really loved him, then trust and belive that one day everything will be alright.
i know it's hard, but what ever happens,happens just for good.How do you say good-bye to the love of your life and soul mate?
Why are you two apart? Is he on deployment? There is something important missing from your text. Did he break up w/u?
Obviously, there is love here. But I don't understand why it's over. Are you not accepting his breakup? What's the deal?
pawn the wedding band
If he has moved on already then maybe you should try and do the same.i kow that is it going to be hard,maybe even the hardest thing you have ever had to do.I am with my soulmate and i hope that i never have to face the day that he says that he doesnt want to be with me anymore.I know that you dont want to do this but if yall were meant to be then God will bring yall together in the end.
First of all, I am so sorry. I can't imagine the pain you are going through. I don't know what his deal is, but just be patient and pray. Sometimes, things are not always what they seem. If he truly is your soulmate, the one God has planned for you, then love will find a way. Just pray and have faith and I will keep you both in my prayers. God bless.
Honey, If he's not calling or responding, he's not what he claimed to be. Take the time you need to come to terms with that and move on. Whether he's leaving scared of commitment, wanting time to himself, or leaving for somebody else; if he loved you as much as has been claimed, he'd be answering you to let you know. Without any kind of response, he's not worth the tears you'll cry.
Does anyone know a way to go about changing your life?
I have been unhappy for a while now and I am looking for some ideas about how to change my life. I am pretty self-conscious, don't like dealing with large crowds of people, and lack the confidence I need to truly take a risk and move on with my life. Does anyone have any ideas about what I could do to start fresh and build a happier, more confident me? A person once told me that a person can only change when he/she is ready to...well, I AM ready to change! I just need some help figuring out what to do from here. Thanks for any advice given...Does anyone know a way to go about changing your life?
the best advice i can give to you is what i'm doing....changing around some of the issues....
for example, i am completely dissatisfied with what i'm doing right now, work wise. So, i've decided to go back to school in hopes of obtaining a paralegal certification so that i can find myself a job where i can put my brain to use. Here's to hoping i pass the tests along the way so i can get the certification.
You can change anything around, but you have to have the will power.Does anyone know a way to go about changing your life?
Hi Kyle,
This depends on what you want to do! One way to go about changing your life is dealing with the things that you are afraid of doing. That will make you happier, even though it may make you to take a step out of your comfort zone.
Work on your confidence and if you don't like large crowds of people, take small steps to working on your social skills. Perhaps just being out in public where there is a lot of people or just saying hi, or smiling, or giving compliments to people when you have the chance.
Nobody can figure out what it is that you want; you must find that out for yourself whether it is more friendship, more prosperity, more love, or just an overall improved you. If you are self-conscious, deal with your self-consciousness! You have a positive attitude and now it's time to put it to the test.
Good luck,
Tristan
Go out and start talking to people... show off the things you can do... and demostrate.
I'm sorry you have been unhappy--but give you lots of kudos for wanting to make a change and become happier. It is a big step--and definitely worth it.
You have to be your own #1 priority in this life. You need to treat yourself like you would treat a fvery best friend. You deserve just as much respect and love as they do.
Okay--not knowing your age or living situatiomn/work situation it is a little hard to give ideas on how to proceed.
How to become more confident and increase self esteem is where to start. personally I do alot of reading on positive self-affirmations. There are web sites that give a daily affirmation to help with self esteem too.
You need to realize that there is only one 'you' in this world--no one else is exactly like you--and this makes you unique and very special.
You have talents that others do not have, whether you realize it right now , or not!
You have alot to offer to this world---your opinion counts--and so do your feelings!
try to do something for yourself everyday--just for you--- you deserve good things--you deserve to be happy!
I don't do well in large crowds either--it is a fairly common thing.
Good luck.
the best advice i can give to you is what i'm doing....changing around some of the issues....
for example, i am completely dissatisfied with what i'm doing right now, work wise. So, i've decided to go back to school in hopes of obtaining a paralegal certification so that i can find myself a job where i can put my brain to use. Here's to hoping i pass the tests along the way so i can get the certification.
You can change anything around, but you have to have the will power.Does anyone know a way to go about changing your life?
Hi Kyle,
This depends on what you want to do! One way to go about changing your life is dealing with the things that you are afraid of doing. That will make you happier, even though it may make you to take a step out of your comfort zone.
Work on your confidence and if you don't like large crowds of people, take small steps to working on your social skills. Perhaps just being out in public where there is a lot of people or just saying hi, or smiling, or giving compliments to people when you have the chance.
Nobody can figure out what it is that you want; you must find that out for yourself whether it is more friendship, more prosperity, more love, or just an overall improved you. If you are self-conscious, deal with your self-consciousness! You have a positive attitude and now it's time to put it to the test.
Good luck,
Tristan
Go out and start talking to people... show off the things you can do... and demostrate.
I'm sorry you have been unhappy--but give you lots of kudos for wanting to make a change and become happier. It is a big step--and definitely worth it.
You have to be your own #1 priority in this life. You need to treat yourself like you would treat a fvery best friend. You deserve just as much respect and love as they do.
Okay--not knowing your age or living situatiomn/work situation it is a little hard to give ideas on how to proceed.
How to become more confident and increase self esteem is where to start. personally I do alot of reading on positive self-affirmations. There are web sites that give a daily affirmation to help with self esteem too.
You need to realize that there is only one 'you' in this world--no one else is exactly like you--and this makes you unique and very special.
You have talents that others do not have, whether you realize it right now , or not!
You have alot to offer to this world---your opinion counts--and so do your feelings!
try to do something for yourself everyday--just for you--- you deserve good things--you deserve to be happy!
I don't do well in large crowds either--it is a fairly common thing.
Good luck.
How do you tell the father of your baby that you don't want him in your life anymore?
I want to move on with my life. I was in love with a man for two years. I became pregnant, and he walked out on me. But now he's back and wants to be a father and a husband. How should I break it to him that I don't want to be his wife or girlfriend. I've changed my mind! And how do I tell him that I don't want him playing a major role in my daughter's life. (Of course I want my daughter to know her father, but I don't think he should be a part of her daily life). ?How do you tell the father of your baby that you don't want him in your life anymore?
The decision to move on with your life is for you to make but also remember there is a child involved. Of course I don't know all the details but if he was man enough to come back into your life to play the role as father and husband, I would examine the situation very closely. People do change and we all make mistakes but when people make the effort to change and start being positive, we should acknolwedge that. Unfortunately things happen in God's time, not ours. We would like for people to become better when when want it but that is not how life happens. I can respect you not wanting him in your life as a partner but have you sat down with a clear mind and written down the reasons why not? Are you involved or intrested in someone else currently? Have you sat down with him and outright asked him why he wants to be a part of your life? Find out, you may be surprised.
Now not having him in your daughter's life is another matter entirely. Unless he is morally bad, you need to let him be involved! There are women all across America who wish the fathers of their children would stand up to be men and resume their role as a father. Perhaps he is not perfect but this is a man who desires to be a father to his child. Even if he walked away at first, he is here now. Tell him what you expect of him as a father and find out what he expects of you as a mother. Let your daughter know both parents and give him a chance with her. If he can be around daily for her, work out something with him. If nothing else I am glad to hear of another man stepping up to the plate because I give classes to women all the time and among their desires is for the father of their children to take responsibility. Many of them stated they find the father more valuable than child support. We always run after men with child support but if a man is willing to be there physically as well, that is when you really win and so does the child.
Give good thought to your decision. Don't just ask on emotions such as bitterness. We get one side of the story but chances are he'd have another version. Get couseling if you can't make the decision reasonably-sometimes it helps to have some good guidance. I trust you'll do the right thing and all parties involved will be satisfied.How do you tell the father of your baby that you don't want him in your life anymore?
Two parts to this question. Part one. Tell him your feelings toward him have changed.
Let him know that you need to have your own space.
Part two. This isn't all about what you want. Your daughter has the right to have a
healthy relationship with her father. Just because you have decided you don't want
the man in your life doesn't give you the right to decide that for your daughter. Unless
the guy beat you, does drugs or is not a responsible person, he has rights as a father
and there is nothing you can do or say to change that. You need to grow up where this is concerned.
Just tell him that You feel different now and talk to him about seening the baby dont yell or fight about it cause when 2 fight and some real feelings end up coming out they dont take it as real cause its in the middle of a fight. Maybe you also changed your mind cause he all ready walked out on you and your scared he will do it again but listen ok I have 4 kids and I didnt want to stay with there father and you cant be with someone for a baby it will never work. Just sit and talk to him tell him how you really feel and if he dont understand then you just have to kick him out wish you luck on this one....
He is the Father, you wouldn't want this to happen if the roll was reversed. He is also legally responsible for child support. Also what would you tell this innocent child years from now when he or she says ';were is my dad';. Then sooner or later they find him, they go there for his story, and you might loose that child for life.
you can't necissarily tell someone that they cannot see their own child, maybe you should make some sort of arrangements with the courts to have joint custody.. or just explain to him you don't want to be romantically involved with him anymore,but you cannot take his child away from him.. its not fair to him, and definetly not fair to your daughter
Its not up to you. He's the father, he has every right to see that baby anytime he so pleases unless you go and get a stupid lawyer who denies that right by lying to the court. Tell him you dont wanna be with him, but you have no say what so ever in the matter of him seeing his daughter.
i think your bitter and hurt- and have every right to be
but if you could manage to forgive him, itll put your heart at ease and make your life easier- and your kids life easier
i know its not fair..and those words dont even begin to explain it..
but there are more important things in life, and when you hold anger in, it will ruin everything and has already started to.
i know these are tough words to follow, but if you trust in them, youll see a silver lining creeping into the picture
You don't. You have a child and they are the father. If he wants to have a relationship with the child then you have to live with that.
what he said
and you need to tell him right away so he won't have any false hopes of becoming a family unit with you and your daughter.... You need to examine your true feelings of how you felt when he walked out on you and let him know that those feelings are impeding your ability to move into the relationship that he wants now.
but.... as a former single mom with a daughter... I would recommend you think about the relationship you DO want him to have and the role you want him to play in her life. Children need their parents... if it is not possible for you to be together... make it so she has ample time with him. You don't have to be part of it if it makes you uncomfortable, but DO keep your relationship with him cordial.
I'm curious as to why you don't want him to ';play a major role in her life.'; Legally, he has custodial rights and due to her young age, you could have share joint custody.
I hope you are able to resolve this situation without it turning into an ugly situation...... for the sake of your child. Good luck.
you may decide that you dont want him to play a major role in your child's life, but dont you think your child is entitled to enjoy father's care. you cant just cut out the father from a child's life. if the father is dead you can say that to the child but you say you want the child to know about the father but yet you dont want her to get too close to him. think from the child's point of view. whatever maybe the problem between the parents it must never affect he child. you should go for a compromise. you could take up turns looking after the kid. in that way you needn't have to worry about the guy getting back into your life and the child would be cared for by both the parents. hope this helped
Let him know how you feel, tell him that you have no feelings that would allow the relationship from going any further. Tell when he walked out that you can never really trust him in staying when the going gets rough. Let him know you will allow your future child will know who he is and if he wants to support her upbringing, that's fine, if not that's fine also. But you don't expect for him to be in her daily life. Just be honest. But(don't you hate buts) he has a right to see her, he could take you to court and the judges in less you have a valid reason why he can't see her(abusive, or what ever) then they will have you both set up a visitation schedule. Its not going to be easy. But you do what best for you and your child.
Explain to him that people change, he couldnt have expected you to sit around and wait for him. You grew up and took responsibility of your child while he ran out on it. You have to take the good with the bad, he left for the bad and now wants the good, it doesnt work that way. Tell him you've changed and dont want the things you did 2 years ago, marrying somene wont make it better, tell him the best way he can make it better is to leave things be. If he wants back into your daughters life fine. But its going to have to be baby steps, a little at a time. Because you dont want him hurting her cause that will just make it harder for you.
be allowed to, regardless of what you think about him, as long as there is no danger to the child in doing so. If you try to keep him from that, then he can go to court and get official sanction to either joint custody or permanent visitation (hell, he could even get full custody), and there is not much you'd be able to do to stop him. You have a long road ahead of you, and doing it on your own is going to be very difficult. A child needs contact and interaction with both parents. The child already has one strike against them by being a ';bastard'; child out of wed lock; don't give her two strikes by not allowing her to interact with her dad.long hair styles mortgage broker
The decision to move on with your life is for you to make but also remember there is a child involved. Of course I don't know all the details but if he was man enough to come back into your life to play the role as father and husband, I would examine the situation very closely. People do change and we all make mistakes but when people make the effort to change and start being positive, we should acknolwedge that. Unfortunately things happen in God's time, not ours. We would like for people to become better when when want it but that is not how life happens. I can respect you not wanting him in your life as a partner but have you sat down with a clear mind and written down the reasons why not? Are you involved or intrested in someone else currently? Have you sat down with him and outright asked him why he wants to be a part of your life? Find out, you may be surprised.
Now not having him in your daughter's life is another matter entirely. Unless he is morally bad, you need to let him be involved! There are women all across America who wish the fathers of their children would stand up to be men and resume their role as a father. Perhaps he is not perfect but this is a man who desires to be a father to his child. Even if he walked away at first, he is here now. Tell him what you expect of him as a father and find out what he expects of you as a mother. Let your daughter know both parents and give him a chance with her. If he can be around daily for her, work out something with him. If nothing else I am glad to hear of another man stepping up to the plate because I give classes to women all the time and among their desires is for the father of their children to take responsibility. Many of them stated they find the father more valuable than child support. We always run after men with child support but if a man is willing to be there physically as well, that is when you really win and so does the child.
Give good thought to your decision. Don't just ask on emotions such as bitterness. We get one side of the story but chances are he'd have another version. Get couseling if you can't make the decision reasonably-sometimes it helps to have some good guidance. I trust you'll do the right thing and all parties involved will be satisfied.How do you tell the father of your baby that you don't want him in your life anymore?
Two parts to this question. Part one. Tell him your feelings toward him have changed.
Let him know that you need to have your own space.
Part two. This isn't all about what you want. Your daughter has the right to have a
healthy relationship with her father. Just because you have decided you don't want
the man in your life doesn't give you the right to decide that for your daughter. Unless
the guy beat you, does drugs or is not a responsible person, he has rights as a father
and there is nothing you can do or say to change that. You need to grow up where this is concerned.
Just tell him that You feel different now and talk to him about seening the baby dont yell or fight about it cause when 2 fight and some real feelings end up coming out they dont take it as real cause its in the middle of a fight. Maybe you also changed your mind cause he all ready walked out on you and your scared he will do it again but listen ok I have 4 kids and I didnt want to stay with there father and you cant be with someone for a baby it will never work. Just sit and talk to him tell him how you really feel and if he dont understand then you just have to kick him out wish you luck on this one....
He is the Father, you wouldn't want this to happen if the roll was reversed. He is also legally responsible for child support. Also what would you tell this innocent child years from now when he or she says ';were is my dad';. Then sooner or later they find him, they go there for his story, and you might loose that child for life.
you can't necissarily tell someone that they cannot see their own child, maybe you should make some sort of arrangements with the courts to have joint custody.. or just explain to him you don't want to be romantically involved with him anymore,but you cannot take his child away from him.. its not fair to him, and definetly not fair to your daughter
Its not up to you. He's the father, he has every right to see that baby anytime he so pleases unless you go and get a stupid lawyer who denies that right by lying to the court. Tell him you dont wanna be with him, but you have no say what so ever in the matter of him seeing his daughter.
i think your bitter and hurt- and have every right to be
but if you could manage to forgive him, itll put your heart at ease and make your life easier- and your kids life easier
i know its not fair..and those words dont even begin to explain it..
but there are more important things in life, and when you hold anger in, it will ruin everything and has already started to.
i know these are tough words to follow, but if you trust in them, youll see a silver lining creeping into the picture
You don't. You have a child and they are the father. If he wants to have a relationship with the child then you have to live with that.
what he said
and you need to tell him right away so he won't have any false hopes of becoming a family unit with you and your daughter.... You need to examine your true feelings of how you felt when he walked out on you and let him know that those feelings are impeding your ability to move into the relationship that he wants now.
but.... as a former single mom with a daughter... I would recommend you think about the relationship you DO want him to have and the role you want him to play in her life. Children need their parents... if it is not possible for you to be together... make it so she has ample time with him. You don't have to be part of it if it makes you uncomfortable, but DO keep your relationship with him cordial.
I'm curious as to why you don't want him to ';play a major role in her life.'; Legally, he has custodial rights and due to her young age, you could have share joint custody.
I hope you are able to resolve this situation without it turning into an ugly situation...... for the sake of your child. Good luck.
you may decide that you dont want him to play a major role in your child's life, but dont you think your child is entitled to enjoy father's care. you cant just cut out the father from a child's life. if the father is dead you can say that to the child but you say you want the child to know about the father but yet you dont want her to get too close to him. think from the child's point of view. whatever maybe the problem between the parents it must never affect he child. you should go for a compromise. you could take up turns looking after the kid. in that way you needn't have to worry about the guy getting back into your life and the child would be cared for by both the parents. hope this helped
Let him know how you feel, tell him that you have no feelings that would allow the relationship from going any further. Tell when he walked out that you can never really trust him in staying when the going gets rough. Let him know you will allow your future child will know who he is and if he wants to support her upbringing, that's fine, if not that's fine also. But you don't expect for him to be in her daily life. Just be honest. But(don't you hate buts) he has a right to see her, he could take you to court and the judges in less you have a valid reason why he can't see her(abusive, or what ever) then they will have you both set up a visitation schedule. Its not going to be easy. But you do what best for you and your child.
Explain to him that people change, he couldnt have expected you to sit around and wait for him. You grew up and took responsibility of your child while he ran out on it. You have to take the good with the bad, he left for the bad and now wants the good, it doesnt work that way. Tell him you've changed and dont want the things you did 2 years ago, marrying somene wont make it better, tell him the best way he can make it better is to leave things be. If he wants back into your daughters life fine. But its going to have to be baby steps, a little at a time. Because you dont want him hurting her cause that will just make it harder for you.
be allowed to, regardless of what you think about him, as long as there is no danger to the child in doing so. If you try to keep him from that, then he can go to court and get official sanction to either joint custody or permanent visitation (hell, he could even get full custody), and there is not much you'd be able to do to stop him. You have a long road ahead of you, and doing it on your own is going to be very difficult. A child needs contact and interaction with both parents. The child already has one strike against them by being a ';bastard'; child out of wed lock; don't give her two strikes by not allowing her to interact with her dad.
Why does it hurt so bad when you lose the love of your life over some stupid crape?
Now the love of my life has gone as she is moving on with her life to a different man who will treat her better than me. But what i don't understand that the love for her will be here for her is she wants it. But I love my ex with all my heart and soul and one day I was going to marry her to, but now she is gone for good. I guess that it is true what they say about people who finish last then, as i think that i fit in that catorgory right now. Yes I'm a very old fashion man and i do know how to treat a woman and all. But i would like to know how can i win love of my life back and be a happy man for the rest of my life?????Please response to serious answers only...Thank youWhy does it hurt so bad when you lose the love of your life over some stupid crape?
THE ONLY WAY YOU WILL BE HAPPY IS TO LET HER GO
AND MOVE ON. SHE HAS MOVE ON AND IT TIME FOR YOU
TO DO THE SAME. IT DOES HURT WHEN YOU LOVE SOME
ONE THAT HAS GONE. BUT YOU WILL FIND LOVE AGAIN.
SHE OUT THERE.Why does it hurt so bad when you lose the love of your life over some stupid crape?
if you love her the way you say you do,then talk to her,tell her everything you feel.and if she loves you the same,then dont let her go,dont loose the love of your life cause you think she's gonna be better with someone else.if she loves you too im sure she will only be ok being with you.
if she doesnt,then let her go,try to get over her,i dont think you will forget about her,but time heals all wounds,and if it's mean to be then it will be.
good luck!
love is hard ive lost mine its like lossing a arm your so used to having right there but its gone now. well look theres not much you can do, once women moved on they move on i know its not what you want but its the truth.now the way you can win her back is opening your heart, let her see the love and tell her truth will have its rewards. i know its hard but you might want to get some female friends and they might take your mind off of things.
Toughy... Do you ever think that maybe, it just wasnt meant to be. Yeah it may not seem that way now, but obviously something went wrong. Even if you didnt do anything and it was just her, she must have wanted to move on, maybe she thought her love of her life wasnt you, and it was the guy she is with now. You just need to let her go and move on, you will find another girl, trust me, and if you are as great of a guy as you say, it will be her loss and someone elses win.
Why did she leave you??? Release the pain and move on with your life. If you really, truly love her, you have to let her go. If she really truly loves you then she will return. You can't force it to happen. You just have to let nature takes its course.
I really don't know what it feels like to lose love over a crape. I did, however, lose a good friend over a doughnut once. Lot of regrets there (shoulda' fought harder for that doughnut).
wow, i am on the other side of this situation....in fact, you COULD be my ex....hmmm
well, I put up with my ex's s**t many, many times. and this last time was the last time.
so i guess what I'm saying is, if this is the first time you messed up, you may still have a chance of convincing her to come back. BUT, if things like this have happened repeatedly...well, you could have lost her forever.
ps-
really, is it you??
I don't feel sympathic for you. you should have treated her right the first time. but to answer your question, you should try showing her that you are willing to bend and treat her right this time. show her that everyone deserves a second chance and so do relationships. and notice that i say SHOW not tell... ask yourself that if you are going to get her back, will you be unfaithful? its no point to get her back and later get a divorce or break up! of course now you say you won't be unfaithful and treat her bad, but be honest. you must pass the test yourself before you can ask her to trust you. she was with you and there is a reason why she was with you in the first place. show her that reason again. i don't want to tell you to be a different man bc then ur relationship is doomed to fail, but is there something about you that you know you should change to become a better person? not only for her, but also for you?
but remember: nothing comes great if it was forced. there has to be a reason why you two are not together. faith never plan you two to be together and if you force it, you might even ruin the future. many people seem like they should belong, but sometimes, when they are not ready, they are not ready. try to focus on who you want to become first. once you found out, be that man, and then it will be easier.
hope this helps. good luck.
THE ONLY WAY YOU WILL BE HAPPY IS TO LET HER GO
AND MOVE ON. SHE HAS MOVE ON AND IT TIME FOR YOU
TO DO THE SAME. IT DOES HURT WHEN YOU LOVE SOME
ONE THAT HAS GONE. BUT YOU WILL FIND LOVE AGAIN.
SHE OUT THERE.Why does it hurt so bad when you lose the love of your life over some stupid crape?
if you love her the way you say you do,then talk to her,tell her everything you feel.and if she loves you the same,then dont let her go,dont loose the love of your life cause you think she's gonna be better with someone else.if she loves you too im sure she will only be ok being with you.
if she doesnt,then let her go,try to get over her,i dont think you will forget about her,but time heals all wounds,and if it's mean to be then it will be.
good luck!
love is hard ive lost mine its like lossing a arm your so used to having right there but its gone now. well look theres not much you can do, once women moved on they move on i know its not what you want but its the truth.now the way you can win her back is opening your heart, let her see the love and tell her truth will have its rewards. i know its hard but you might want to get some female friends and they might take your mind off of things.
Toughy... Do you ever think that maybe, it just wasnt meant to be. Yeah it may not seem that way now, but obviously something went wrong. Even if you didnt do anything and it was just her, she must have wanted to move on, maybe she thought her love of her life wasnt you, and it was the guy she is with now. You just need to let her go and move on, you will find another girl, trust me, and if you are as great of a guy as you say, it will be her loss and someone elses win.
Why did she leave you??? Release the pain and move on with your life. If you really, truly love her, you have to let her go. If she really truly loves you then she will return. You can't force it to happen. You just have to let nature takes its course.
I really don't know what it feels like to lose love over a crape. I did, however, lose a good friend over a doughnut once. Lot of regrets there (shoulda' fought harder for that doughnut).
wow, i am on the other side of this situation....in fact, you COULD be my ex....hmmm
well, I put up with my ex's s**t many, many times. and this last time was the last time.
so i guess what I'm saying is, if this is the first time you messed up, you may still have a chance of convincing her to come back. BUT, if things like this have happened repeatedly...well, you could have lost her forever.
ps-
really, is it you??
I don't feel sympathic for you. you should have treated her right the first time. but to answer your question, you should try showing her that you are willing to bend and treat her right this time. show her that everyone deserves a second chance and so do relationships. and notice that i say SHOW not tell... ask yourself that if you are going to get her back, will you be unfaithful? its no point to get her back and later get a divorce or break up! of course now you say you won't be unfaithful and treat her bad, but be honest. you must pass the test yourself before you can ask her to trust you. she was with you and there is a reason why she was with you in the first place. show her that reason again. i don't want to tell you to be a different man bc then ur relationship is doomed to fail, but is there something about you that you know you should change to become a better person? not only for her, but also for you?
but remember: nothing comes great if it was forced. there has to be a reason why you two are not together. faith never plan you two to be together and if you force it, you might even ruin the future. many people seem like they should belong, but sometimes, when they are not ready, they are not ready. try to focus on who you want to become first. once you found out, be that man, and then it will be easier.
hope this helps. good luck.
How do you break up with someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with?
I love my boyfriend, from his looks, to his jokes and the sex, we can talk for hours, we like watching the same stuff on TV and overall we are alot alike! The problem is that he is so careless that he lives for the moment he is immature %26amp; he doesnt know how to save he wants all the nice thnigs in life buthe doesnt want to take the responsibility of having to pay bills orhavingto go to work everyday! %26amp; now that he finally does he seems depressed, we fight about how to spend our money all the fuccin time...I wanne pay off our debt he wants to buy redbull cause he is tiered, n e way I know I can make it without him like get an appartment %26amp; pay all the outstanding bills but with him who knows how long it will take, its seems like we are not on the same page and him beeing inconsiderant to my worries about tommorrow or next month is hurting my feelings. I want to move on %26amp; be more then WE are right now %26amp; I know how to do it but he is out for his own profit, how do I move on I love him soHow do you break up with someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with?
simply tell him that you love and want to be with him forever but you can't do it by yourself and if he does'nt start helping you out tell him he gots ta goHow do you break up with someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with?
Next him sweetie seem he is only bringing you down and you know it. PLEASE REMEMBER YOU HAVE TO LOOK OUT FOR NUMBER ONE AND THAT IS YOU!!! Money is a very big problem in all relationships and if you are already having thoses issues you very well better do something about it now before it is too late. If not things will only get worst. TALK to him and if he does not listen leave him and do not i mean really do not look back. for your own good....
A man is suppose to complament you... He is not suppose to take away from you... You should sperate for a while... You guys are not in healthy realtionship and it is not going to get any better until you make some decisons about where you want your life to go... A man will only do what you allow him to do... It's great that you guys have so much in common, but does he make you feel liek a woman? Does he sweep you off your feet still?
stay with him you will know how much you miss him if you break up
if u love him that much, seek counseling to help, why leave someone if u love him like u have mentioned a few times in question.......things can be worked out, dont give up yet...........ya'll r not married.
There is no easy way to go about leaving someone you love. Do you really want him gone or are you just upset? It sounds to me like your not to sure. If you 2 love each other then you should be able to get past this whole finical thing. OK I don't really no much about couples living together cuz me and my BF don't...but I do know that before you break up with him you have to ask your self if this petty argument is worth loosing the one you love...
Good luck and if all else fails then just pray about it....God will give you the answer...
I'll be cheering for ya.. :-)
it seems like you know its best...so if you cant work those problems out you will be fine. it will just take time
You have to be honest and explain this to him.
Try writing him a note and say you will talk about in person in....say 2 days. This way he has time to think about everything and perhaps be more logical when you confront each other.
I think the two of you will be okay, he just might not understand your feelings at the moment.
just do it, the more you think about it the more you will find excuses not too.
I think you know the answer to this. He is dragging you down and not helping you to meet your goals and dreams. That's not loving you. You need to just DO it. There's no easier way. The only thing that will help is the time away and the self respect you'll gain by making strides towards your goals.
simply tell him that you love and want to be with him forever but you can't do it by yourself and if he does'nt start helping you out tell him he gots ta goHow do you break up with someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with?
Next him sweetie seem he is only bringing you down and you know it. PLEASE REMEMBER YOU HAVE TO LOOK OUT FOR NUMBER ONE AND THAT IS YOU!!! Money is a very big problem in all relationships and if you are already having thoses issues you very well better do something about it now before it is too late. If not things will only get worst. TALK to him and if he does not listen leave him and do not i mean really do not look back. for your own good....
A man is suppose to complament you... He is not suppose to take away from you... You should sperate for a while... You guys are not in healthy realtionship and it is not going to get any better until you make some decisons about where you want your life to go... A man will only do what you allow him to do... It's great that you guys have so much in common, but does he make you feel liek a woman? Does he sweep you off your feet still?
stay with him you will know how much you miss him if you break up
if u love him that much, seek counseling to help, why leave someone if u love him like u have mentioned a few times in question.......things can be worked out, dont give up yet...........ya'll r not married.
There is no easy way to go about leaving someone you love. Do you really want him gone or are you just upset? It sounds to me like your not to sure. If you 2 love each other then you should be able to get past this whole finical thing. OK I don't really no much about couples living together cuz me and my BF don't...but I do know that before you break up with him you have to ask your self if this petty argument is worth loosing the one you love...
Good luck and if all else fails then just pray about it....God will give you the answer...
I'll be cheering for ya.. :-)
it seems like you know its best...so if you cant work those problems out you will be fine. it will just take time
You have to be honest and explain this to him.
Try writing him a note and say you will talk about in person in....say 2 days. This way he has time to think about everything and perhaps be more logical when you confront each other.
I think the two of you will be okay, he just might not understand your feelings at the moment.
just do it, the more you think about it the more you will find excuses not too.
I think you know the answer to this. He is dragging you down and not helping you to meet your goals and dreams. That's not loving you. You need to just DO it. There's no easier way. The only thing that will help is the time away and the self respect you'll gain by making strides towards your goals.
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